Im either 1) a horrible friend, bad person and unlikeable. or 2) Have bad taste in people I befriend.

You Jolynda my sweet are NONE of those things - You're gorgeous, smart and you have a huge heart -- everyone of you JU sisters love you - as do I.

I know what you mean though - you find the older you get the less real friends you have - a couple of years ago everyone was your friend but now that we're old

You're worth everything Joey!!!

If people aren't going to like me for me, then it isn't worth the hurt in the end.

You hit the nail on the head babe... That's why mummy and daddy always stressed 'be yourself' when you were at school making friends with the little kiddies initially!!!

You are about the same age as me, so, I know exactly what you are going through babe... dont let it make you jaded and bitter though, just learn from the experience, and always speak whats on your mind...

You are a beautiful person, and you only need to be yourself, you dont need to impress anyone, so don't try!!! remember, you may be only one person in the world, but you may mean the world to one person... dont let it get you down huh?

BAM!!!

You are not a bad person, give yourself some credit. if you rile yourself, who is going to stand up for you if you can't even give yourself a break?

Could it be that yu are expecting too much from the people u call friends?

I remember how devestating it was to me after I quit day care to find out that while I had and will contiune to have a connection to the people I did day care for, none of them is really my friend. Not like I wanted them to be. We had talked and shared our life on almost a daily basis for 11 years. I expected that we would call each other and get together often. Never once has any of them called me to do something. I called them in the begining but they were alway too busy. I think that I have too few friends, but when I add up the people that I can really count as my friends I know I am blessed. Cindy, Joyce, Sandy and maybe Tammi. But most of the time that seems like to few people when I want to do something with someone.

I am lucky because I think I can count one for sure and maybe both of my daughters as friends. You dad looks forward to spending time with you, not because he has to, because he wants to and I feel the same way. How many people your age do you really think have become someone that the parents really really enjoy spending time with???

Be your self, there is nothing wrong with you. But also remember that I don't think most people your age have your maturaty and that is why they are still very self-absorbed. It is hard to have a meaningful friendship with people your age. And that is another thing, most friendships are shallow and activity based (such as work friends, you change jobs and you don't really stay friends with them.) I know that you are hungering for a meaningful friendship. That takes time, sometimes decades to grow. That is why I am still not sure that Tammi will be one of those friends for life.

Hang in there, and hang out with those of us who enjoy you.

I really feel for you babe.

There's nothing more hurtful and, let's face it, humiliating than realising that you have been pouring your love and affection into an empty well. I didn't find my close, do-anything-for-eachother-without-a-thought friends for a long time. It took a lot of test runs and 30 day trials without the good old money back guarantee. However, once I got far enough away from these horrid times, I realised that I had learnt a lot about people and myself. It sounds trite, but stick with it. People fall into your life at odd times. If you can stop yourself from getting bitter about it, good will come in time.

It also sounds like you have an awesome family who love you as well. Things may suck in the friendship realm, but you'll always have your fam!

Take care,

Suz xxx

Take it easy, amigo. Maybe you just lost track. And did not look where genuine friends are. Remember true friends are few and far between. I know !

I am sure this does not make sense to %99.9 of you, but I needed to get things off my chest!

I know exactly where you're coming from. I have ONE girlfriend that I hang out with maybe once a year. The rest of the time it's just my husband and my family. Where are you supposed to make friends? My co-worker is a moron (see Link) and we live out of town so my daughter's school friend's moms live miles and miles away and are just as busy with their lives as I am with mine. I do get lonely once in a while and wish for someone to garage sale with or go out partying with once in a while, but then I just drag along the hubby.

Overall and in the end, your family is who will be there for you. Oh, and all of us here at JU!

Janders: I'm sorry to hear that you are going through some difficulty, but I'm sure you know that there are plenty of people here at JU who adore you!