If my own sister doesn't want to be around me, who would?

Your friends? Remember, we don't get to pick our family, but we do get to pick our friends.

*hugs Janders* I want you around! You've been such a good friend, and I don't know what I would have done without your help with Alysia's middle name! Thanks! And keep looking up, and remember you can e-mail me anytime! I'm always ready to listen.

Emma

Just a suggestion, if you allow only registered users for your audience, you won't get assholes like above popping in to leave anonymous nastiness.

You seem like a wonderful caring person to me.  Hopefully your sister is just going through an immature, self involved stage.  You might have to tell her to piss off for a while so she can see what it is like to not have you around.  Some people need tough love to get the message.

I really wouldn't worry, siblings are strange creatures, and I guess sometimes it's easier to not understand how their strange minds work. I have two big sisters, ones a complete star, and the other one is a pain. Both of them still see me as theuir baby sister though, and usually treat me like they have to put up with me rather than actually enjoy my company. I've actually got used to it, I have friends and I know that my sisters will be there for me if I need them, as I'm sure your sister will be. She will come round, it's just a phase, but don't beat yourself up over it, let her do her thing and leave her to to it. You sound like you're very kind and considerate she will see that to, but don't let her behaviour change how you are! Sorry for the waffle....

You can choose your friends, but you can't choose your relatives, sweetie. 

And I want to hang out and be around you.  So screw her (and you too anonymous). 

*hugs*

You can choose your friends, but you can't choose your relatives, sweetie.

Gah! I've been plagerized! Well, not the "sweetie" part. I'm gonna go post an article about how people on JU are thieves!

Just for that, I'm gonna do some stealing myself!

I'd hang out with ya too Janders. So screw her (and that goes twice for anonymous) [I couldn't resist the urge to embelish]

Awwwww.... Thanks guys, I know it is probably a stage, but It still stings just the same.

I am just used to my reletives being my friends, and that is hard. I see my mom and her sisteres relationship, and it sucks and I don't want me and Monica's(Thats my sisters name) to suck.

I thought that her and mine would be a friendship I could count on, but I guess not.

Developmentally, young adulthood is a time of self-discovery.

Part of establishing oneself as an adult is to experiment with a variety of personal philosophies in small groups of trusted friends.  That is why the college years are filled with late night conversations, endless debate, and the soul-searching roadtrip or study-abroad.

Between the ages of 17-25 most young people don't have much to do with their families.  Eventually however, everyone gets back in touch with their relatives.

Most young adults (I know) choose to surround themselves with a small group of close-knit friends, and end up considering that reference group as being as strong as a family.  That lasts until everyone eventually gets married and starts their own families.

Jamie~ I gave you an insightful for that one!

It is still hard though because my family, such as my parents, my brother and the like have always been close. I am sick of her making me or my mom cry.

Speaking against the "You can choose your friends but you can't choose your relatives" thing.. I am your relative and I LOVE YOU. I'm so glad that we've been spending so much time together lately because I don't feel like we did a lot when we were younger, so I'm glad that I didn't completely lose out.

"If my own sister doesn't want to be around me, who would?"

I would. All the time. Except I have to share you with Jay.

And I'm sure Lyz would, too.

You and me and Lyz, dawg. Its gonna be rockin. A Party at the double wide, if you will.

Oh Casey, Your so sweet. Yes you do have to share me with Jay, but he's not around much is he?

We HAVE to go up north soon. Fun times will had by all.

I am also glad we have become friends. I consider you one of my BEST friends, and am glad that we finally are spending time together. I love you, and am glad I have you cousin!

Your sister sounds insane... I mean, you sound like the most caring and sweet person... anyone who doesn't want to hang around you is not worth fussing over...

Of course, she is your sister, and blood is thicker than water - I was at my cousins 21st last night, and the sister that 'hated' her gave her a very moving speach... your sister loves you Janders... dare I say it... she is just being a teenager, as the profound wisdom displayed in this thread elludes to!

BAM!!!

Thanks Muggy, I appreciate it. I have hope that she will come around....... eventually.