How did they end up this way?
Published on June 20, 2004 By Janders In Misc
Now That I have moved out of the suburbs and into downtown Minneapolis, I have had many eye-opening experiences that are starting to change the way I think.

Not a day goes by where I don't see a homless person. On the drive home from work it is one on each corner of the freeway exit. They have shifts and days I 'm starting to notice. The Native in his forties, begging for cash is there saturdays afternoon. The black man in his 30's only want cash and smokes. The day I gave him a lighter, his face lit up like he won the lottery. He is there on weekday evenings and nights. The 50-60 year old vet is there Friday nights with his long hair with a simple sign. Vet- Please help!The rest seem to be various twenty something males that have signs begging for food or money. One of the males is particulary aggresive and will press his sign right up to your car. To be honest I never give this man money, he is to expectent of it.
Then there is the other various homeless people I see on a day-to-day basis. There is the old women in the downtown exits. She leans against the phone pole with closed eyes, wearing her winter jacket no matter the weather. She will not make eye contact with you, Is it to painful? There is the the lake street exit, various drugged up males in their 20's and thirties, begging for change, and the 40 year old woman, that would look like a soccer mom if it wasn't for her unwashed clothes and hair. I wonder where her life went wrong, Does she have children, or a family that she is to embarassed to turn to?
There are our resident homeless in the neighborhood also. The two men with their carts come around a few days a week to dig cans out of the trash. And the middle aged woman that sleeps in our lobby floor on rainy nights. We are supposed to call maintance to have her removed, but every time I walk around when returning late at night or leaving in the early morning, I can't help but think of the verse from the bible where Jesus says "Whatever you do unto the least of men, you do unto me". Would I have Jesus removed from my apartment lobby?

To be honest I used to think of homeless people as a group, as "those people". I never gave money or food, I often just thought to myself "get a damn job". But now that "these people" have become part of my everyday life, I am finally changing my ways. I think of them all as indiviuals, and want to know their name, their stories. What despair caused them to turn to a life on the streets? Yes I know that 99% of the time it is drugs or alcohol that puts people on the streets, their addictions taking over their lives. I just feel like it can't be that simple. What before that turned them to drugs and alcohol? I want to hear their stories for selfish reasons. 1) I am curious about things I know nothing of. 2) I want to be a listening ear, Not judging, just listening. 3) I want to know how to not end up that way.

I feel myself changing into a more compassionate being. A lot has to do with the neighborhood we live in. Yes the homeless can be a nuisance, the bring down property values, and raise drug traffic. But I feel like we have compassionate neighbors. People often leave clothes and shoes folded up or hung next to the dumpsters that our homeless "neighbors" frequent. My neighbors and we leave food things that are needed also. In actuality it may only be ourselve that we are helping. The feeling that we are in a small part making a diffence is often more fufilling and valuable then the hand-me-down clothes, the extra food, a buck here or there or bus fare that we give.


Comments
on Jun 21, 2004
I think you are right about alcohol and drugs being part of why they are there. Underlying is probably some level of mental illness that has gone untreated. I am happy that you have compassion, and I am also happy that you use common sense with them and keep yourself safe. It is important to remember that many of them do not want to change for what ever reason. There are a ton of programs out there to help, and they choose not to get help from the programs, probably because they can't or won't follow the rules of the programs. Just be careful.

So I know what to do with my extra winter coats and boots come colder weather.
on Jun 21, 2004

One of my Uncles is one step away from being homeless (he probably will be homeless the day that my Grandma dies and he gets the title to the house that he is living in).  I'm sure he'll sell the house to buy booze.  My Uncle is a talented, nice man- when he is sober.  He has ruined his life.  He has been in and out of treatment his whole life.  Gets good jobs then screws them up.  He can't work now because of a heart condition.  Some people won't change no matter what- even with all the treatment in the world.

Does that mean we should ignore them?  No.  But, you also have to be reasonable with it.  I think that handing them food is good, but handing them cash probably isn't good since they probably won't buy food with it.

There are a few people who are homeless even around the small town I live.  One stays by the expressway entrance and has a sign "will stay sober for food".  (Great idea, huh?)  The other one hangs around the car wash looking for lost quarters.  I'm pretty sure that he pretty much lives in the car wash, which I guess is as close to a "house" as you can get without being kicked out (the owner doesn't seem to be bothered by him). 

on Jun 21, 2004
I am really careful when I am out and about, I usually just hand them a buck and roll my window back up.
on Jun 21, 2004
I know that being homeless, I know that some people actually enjoy being homeless, the freedom, the lack of responsibilites. I just feel bad for them, I want to help, but it the same old thing "You can't help somebody who will not help themselves".

On another note: My downtown exit lately finally took off the winter jacket, maybe for the first day of summer?
on Jun 21, 2004
Wonderful post! Moving to a larger city, and of course, experiencing it myself, has changed me forever. There is an older woman in a nearby park that lives in a bathroom. We are careful not to intrude, but let her know we are there if she wants us. When we pull in, she walks down the way and we leave her things. I think it's great that you want to know their stories.
on Jun 22, 2004
I think what suprises me most is there is no shame it seems. I think if I was homeless I would be so embarassed, yet some of these people I come across EXPECT you to give them money. It is interesting.

I have the two ends, the ones who say thank or or God bless you. And those who either say nothing or ask for more. It is the latter that always blows me away.
on Jul 01, 2004
That was a great article, I guess things are different in a small community it gives you the ability to reach out that bit easier. Now these people are not just a face in a crowd to you, you recognize them and maybe you've built up a story about them already in your head, I know I'm guilty of doing that! It's amazing how kind some people can be, when given the opportunity to do so.
on Jul 01, 2004
Sadly, even being a listening ear is hard to accomplish. For every homeless person, there seem to be ten who prey on homeless people...they usually gain access to them by pretending to minister to them. I found this out when I attempted to initiate a homeless ministry in my area.

If you want to get to know them, the best way is, as Simon & Garfunkel so eloquently put it: "seeking out the poorer quarters where the ragged people go/looking for the places only they would know". Dress down and go to the soup kitchens (if you feel a little guilty about copping a free meal, slip a donation to the ministry on the sly). I wouldn't go so far as holding up a sign, but by entering their world, you gain a better feel, a better empathy for who they are and the world they live in.
on Jul 01, 2004
I guess things are different in a small community it gives you the ability to reach out that bit easier

Do you live in a small city? THe city we like in (Minneapolis) has 350,000 people in a small area, so there are a lot of homeless people. How big is you city? Are there a lot of homeless people?
on Jul 02, 2004
I think what suprises me most is there is no shame it seems. I think if I was homeless I would be so embarassed, yet some of these people I come across EXPECT you to give them money. It is interesting.


What gets me is, during our recent situation, it did occur to me that I could actually make more money begging than off of day labor. But something inside me (I dunno, character maybe?) wouldn't let me do it.