Published on May 2, 2004 By Janders In Home & Family
Now that Mothers day is coming up, it has been very emotional for me. This was supposed to be my first mothers day with my daughter. So Sunday (May 9) is going to be really hard. People don't think of me as a Mom anymore now that my daughter is gone. I found this poem that helped me validate that I am a mom.

What makes a Mother?

Written by Jennifer Wasik
In memory of Zachery Wasik.

I thought of you and closed my eyes
And prayed to God today
I asked "What makes a Mother?"
And I know I heard Him say.

"A Mother has a baby"
This we know is true
"But God can you be a Mother,
When your baby's not with you?"

"Yes, you can," He replied
With confidence in His voice
"I give many women babies,
When they leave is not their choice.

Some I send for a lifetime,
And others for the day.
And some I send to feel your womb,
But there's no need to stay."

"I just don't understand this God
I want my baby to be here."
He took a deep breath and cleared His throat,
And then I saw the tear.

"I wish I could show you,
What your child is doing today.
If you could see your child's smile,
With all the other children and say...

'We go to Earth to learn our lessons,
Of love and life and fear.
My Mommy loved me oh so much,
I got to come strait here.

I feel so lucky to have a Mom,
Who had so much love for me.
I learned my lessons very quickly,
My Mommy set me free.

I miss my Mommy oh so much,
But I visit her every day.
When she goes to sleep,
On her pillow's where I lay

I stroke her hair and kiss her cheek,
And whisper in her ear.
Mommy don't be sad today,
I'm your baby and I'm here.'

"So you see my dear sweet ones,
your children are okay.
Your babies are born here in My home,
And this is where they'll stay.

They'll wait for you with Me,
Until your lesson's through.
And on the day that you come home
they'll be at the gates for you.

So now you see what makes a Mother,
It's the feeling in your heart
it's the love you had so much of
Right from the very start

Though some on earth may not realize,
you are a Mother.
Until their time is done.
They'll be up here with Me one day
and know that you are the best one!"



Comments
on May 02, 2004

This made me cry.  I sat here reading it and just wept.

You ARE a mommy.  Nothing can ever change that.  As long as you remember your daughter, she's never really gone...and she's only ever a thought away.

My heart goes out to you....and I wish you peace.

on May 02, 2004
Do you mind if I send this to some moms I know?
on May 02, 2004
Thanks Dharma, You are always so supportive!

SundaysLost23~ I did not write it I took it off a website, but I think as long as you give credit to the author it is okay.
on May 02, 2004
Dharma~ I wept also when I read it. I am weepy today.... I am dreading mothers day and thinking a lot about Jayden today as you can tell from my 2 posts.
on May 02, 2004

I am weepy today.... I am dreading mothers day and thinking a lot about Jayden today as you can tell from my 2 posts.


Yes, I can tell.  It's ok to cry, you know.  You've been through a terribly traumatic event, you've earned the right to weep and feel sorry for yourself.  I wish I were there to give you a hug and cry with you.


 

on May 02, 2004
Dharma- Thanks... It's just one of those days. I don't know what triggered it? I am debating about going to church this morning, as on my "bad days" I end up crying through most of the service. We'll see, maybe a little church is the medicine I need, or maybe just going out to the courtyard and having a little meditation in nature.
Anyway~ Thank you for always leaving such nice comments, You are always so caring and I thank you.